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	<h2 class="entry-title"><a href="http://www.bigjoyproject.com/day-30-radical-forgiveness-the-imposter-syndrome/" rel="bookmark">Day 30: Radical Forgiveness: The Imposter Syndrome</a></h2>	<div class="entry entry-content">
		<p><img fetchpriority="high" decoding="async" data-attachment-id="735" data-permalink="http://www.bigjoyproject.com/day-30-radical-forgiveness-the-imposter-syndrome/boy-wearing-mens-dress-shoes-and-suit/" data-orig-file="https://i0.wp.com/www.bigjoyproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/01/Imposter-Syndrome.jpg?fit=350%2C350" data-orig-size="350,350" data-comments-opened="1" data-image-meta="{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;\u00a9 Royalty-Free\/Corbis&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;Boy Wearing Men&#039;s Dress Shoes and Suit --- Image by \u00a9 Royalty-Free\/Corbis&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;\u00a9 Corbis.  All Rights Reserved.&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;Boy Wearing Men&#039;s Dress Shoes and Suit&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;1&quot;}" data-image-title="Boy Wearing Men&#8217;s Dress Shoes and Suit" data-image-description="&lt;p&gt;Boy Wearing Men&#8217;s Dress Shoes and Suit &#8212; Image by © Royalty-Free/Corbis&lt;/p&gt;
" data-image-caption="" data-medium-file="https://i0.wp.com/www.bigjoyproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/01/Imposter-Syndrome.jpg?fit=300%2C300" data-large-file="https://i0.wp.com/www.bigjoyproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/01/Imposter-Syndrome.jpg?fit=350%2C350" class="alignnone size-medium wp-image-735" src="https://i0.wp.com/www.bigjoyproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/01/Imposter-Syndrome.jpg?resize=300%2C300" alt="Boy Wearing Men's Dress Shoes and Suit" width="300" height="300" srcset="https://i0.wp.com/www.bigjoyproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/01/Imposter-Syndrome.jpg?resize=300%2C300 300w, https://i0.wp.com/www.bigjoyproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/01/Imposter-Syndrome.jpg?resize=150%2C150 150w, https://i0.wp.com/www.bigjoyproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/01/Imposter-Syndrome.jpg?w=350 350w" sizes="(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px" data-recalc-dims="1" /></p>
<p>Today my plan was to use the Radical Self Acceptance process on the quality of introversion.</p>
<p>I often blame my introversion for holding me back from &#8220;greatness.&#8221; If I were only more outgoing and more motivated to &#8220;get out there&#8221; I would have been more successful, sooner.</p>
<p>Just as I began the process, an image popped into my mind that made me realize there was a bigger issue.</p>
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<p>Up until pretty recently, the idea of loving or even accepting myself &#8220;as is&#8221; has been something I just couldn&#8217;t &#8220;grok.&#8221;</p>
<p>I grew up on the idea of &#8220;self-improvement.&#8221; That I was flawed. My flaws, by definition were fundamentally unacceptable, and my life&#8217;s work was changing all of those unacceptable elements into things I would like. So personal happiness and fulfillment is all about changing what I don&#8217;t like into what I do like so that I become a person I can like.</p>
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